Understanding What Holds Us Back
Understanding What Holds Us Back
Many individuals remain unaware of the internal obstacles that hinder their personal growth. Typically, this lack of awareness stems from the conscious mind’s inability to recognize the underlying triggers that drive our behaviors. If you could resolve your challenges using your analytical thinking, then why haven’t you done so? The answer lies in the nature of how our brains function. When faced with a triggering situation, our rational mind is often overridden by instinctual survival mechanisms—survival programs developed early in life during formative experiences. As a result, each time you encounter a similar scenario as an adult, you're likely to engage that same reactive program.
Is this response helpful? Not particularly. Is it your fault? Absolutely not; it’s simply the way our brains are wired. The good news, however, is that the brain can be rewired.
Recent scientific research supports the notion that the brain has the capacity for change. This process can be likened to planting new seeds in a garden, building new roads, or developing fresh neural pathways. Concepts like "re-parenting your inner child" and "neuroplasticity" are frequently discussed in therapeutic literature. Yet, a plethora of individuals claim to possess the keys to changing our internal programming, but few provide substantial scientific backing for their claims. Nevertheless, credible research affirms that such transformation is indeed possible.
I personally experienced this transformative process through a program developed by Lion Goodman called the Clear Beliefs Method, clearbeliefs.com. Participating in this program allowed me to revisit and rewire many aspects of my childhood programming, specifically the patterns ingrained during my time in an abusive environment. As a result, I’ve noticed tangible changes in my behavior. For instance, I’ve significantly reduced the frequency with which I raise my voice at my children. I no longer feel paralyzed by the fear of asserting myself or saying no. Life has shifted from a constant struggle for survival to a rich adventure to be embraced.
The journey of rewiring one’s brain is undoubtedly challenging, yet the rewards are immeasurable. Embracing this change offers freedom from past influences and paves the way for a more fulfilling existence.
If you’ve ever felt held back and are ready to embark on your own transformative journey, I invite you to explore how coaching can support you in this process. With my recent certification from the Clear Beliefs program, I am here to guide you in rewiring your mindset and nurturing a more empowered life. Together, we can turn obstacles into opportunities and help you embrace the adventure that life has to offer.
References for further reading:
Neuroplasticity:
Doidge, Norman.The Brain That Changes Itself: Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science. 2007. This book compiles various case studies and scientific explanations about how the brain can physically change and adapt.
Re-wiring the Brain:
Kolb, B., & Gibb, R. (2011). "Brain plasticity and behavior."Nature Reviews Neuroscience, 12(10), 731-743. This article discusses the mechanisms of neuroplasticity and how experiences can lead to behavioral changes.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy:
Hofmann, S. G., Asnaani, A., Vonk, I. J., Sawyer, A. T., & Fang, A. (2012). "The Efficacy of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: A Review of Meta-analyses."Cognitive Therapy and Research, 36(5), 427-440. This research shows how cognitive-behavioral strategies can help rewire thought patterns and behaviors.
Mindfulness and Neuroscience:
Zeidan, F., Johnson, S. K., Diamond, B. J., David, A. S., & Goolkasian, P. (2010). "Mindfulness meditation improves cognition: Evidence of brief mental training."Consciousness and Cognition, 19(2), 597-605. This study indicates that mindfulness practices can lead to improvements in various cognitive functions, supporting the concept of mental reprogramming.
Re-parenting the Inner Child:
McKay, M., & Fanning, P. (2016).Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem. 2016. This book explores concepts related to re-parenting and self-improvement through cognitive techniques.
The Impact of Childhood Experiences:
Felitti, V. J., Anda, R. F., Nordenberg, D., Williamson, D. F., Spitz, A. M., Edwards, V., ... & Marks, J. S. (1998). "Relationship of Childhood Abuse and Household Dysfunction to Many of the Leading Causes of Death in Adults: The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study."American Journal of Preventive Medicine, 14(4), 245-258. This landmark study links early adverse experiences to later life health outcomes, emphasizing the importance of addressing these foundational issues.
